On my first trip to New Orleans, eight years ago, I bought a new pair of sneakers.By the end of a week I had danced in the streets so much I’d worn holes through the bottoms of each of them, straight through to my socks. She has a job she loves that pays good money, money that she likes to spend on her geeky hobbies and toys. – she hears the same thing over and over again: “You’re too intimidating…” Does this sound familiar to you? In fact, going by the number of emails I get from my readers, it’s most common issue that geek (or geek-curious) women encounter when they’re interested in dating. She’s well educated, with a rapier wit and a willingness to use it. And yet, Friday still remains the most lonely night of the week when she sees all of the happy, laughing couples making plans, having romantic dinners and enjoying the sex while she’s at home with Fringe on the DVR and a bottle of Malbec breathing in the kitchen. Well, whenever she’s interested in a guy – a guy who’s worth her time, because what’s the point of having standards if she’s not going to stick to ‘em?There is no reason why you should try to force yourself to be someone you’re not in order to meet somebody else’s criteria.Now, that having been said: you want to consider toning down your behavior somewhat. She’s done it all; dating sites, meeting guys at cons, the comic store, chatting up friends from class and at work.
Olivia Munn may be a geek , but how is average Joe Nerd supposed to compete with the celebrities she meets on a daily basis?Instead, make a point of being approachable and friendly.Wide smiles that reach your eyes (the “Duchenne Smile”) and open, welcoming body language can make a shy or introverted guy feel more welcome.Showing genuine interest or honest appreciation in his accomplishments or hobbies can also help him overcome feelings of “What could she possibly see in me?” And I do mean genuine; shy, geeky guys are perpetually concerned that people are secretly making fun of them.