Hiv dating lines
The messages, which include 'You're a walking disease, mate' and 'Sluts like you deserve it,' were sent to Grindr users and the Gay Men's Health Charity (GMFA) asked a group of HIV-positive models to read them out and react.'Each time someone sends a message like this to an HIV guy it adds a brick to the viral closet.
Next time someone challenges them about their status they might deny it. And things happen.'A major study published last year found that HIV-positive people, both gay and straight, who are on antiretroviral therapy have just a 1-4 per cent chance of passing the virus onto a partner during unprotected sex.'The medical treatment for HIV has had a dramatic impact on the health and life expectancy of those of us who are living with HIV.
An HIV-positive person's physical condition affects positive dating. Sometimes the HIV-positive person meets someone, like Ray, who has lost a lover to the virus (or maybe the HIV-positive person him or herself has lost a lover to the virus). The fear of rejection can have many forms for the HIV-positive person.
Ed proudly states that he has had six lovers in his lifetime. Here's a short conversation with Ed about his dating life. Ed: For a couple of reasons: first, I just didn't have the energy for a physical relationship with sex and all that. Some of these "AIDS widowers" (or "widows") are hesitant to date another HIV-positive person because they are afraid they might lose a loved one again. It can lead to depression and isolation, or worry [Sam told me later he has developed an ulcer from worrying about how to tell people he's HIV-positive], or to a myriad of other psychological, emotional, and/or physical symptoms. How can someone engaged in "positive dating" minimize their fears and get the maximum out of their dating situations?
What difference would it make if I had to take a few more? Ray: Well, I think one should always assume someone is HIV-positive if you are going to have sex with them. Ray: Simply that you must have safe sex with everyone. But there is something I have to say to your HIV-positive readers. Ray: Just to remember that it isn't all that easy for people who are HIV-negative to date either.
The line of thinking about dating is that it might be the best way to explore and develop healthy relationships.
Unfortunately, the progress we've made in tackling the stigma associated with an HIV-positive diagnosis has not been as fast,' GMFA CEO Matthew Hodson said.'The all too visible stigmatisation of people living with HIV discourages people from testing, or talking honestly about HIV, their risk and their testing history.
There is a relatively new phenomenon sweeping the current social scene: dating.
Yet, these drugs do not work for everyone, and not everyone has the discipline to take them on the strict regimen that they require to be effective. I often think, why am I still here and everyone I care about is gone?
Ed, a forty-something Puerto Rican gay male who looks healthy, admitted privately that he is constantly plagued by neuropathy (nerve damage characterized by sensory loss, pain, muscle weakness and wasting of muscle in the hands or legs or feet). I still go out socially once in a while, but I don't pick up anyone to have sex. This issue, known as "survivor guilt," is one that may affect HIV-positive people when they are dating. So it hasn't changed my dating habits too much, but I will tell you that I am less aggressive in pursuing people than I used to be.